2017 Wealth Lesson #1: What You Focus on Expands
Published: December 19, 2016
As a wealth coach, I am so much more interested in hearing about what people want in their lives as opposed to what they don’t want or don’t have. However, most people begin their conversations with me by elaborating in great detail about what they don’t have or how deep in debt they are.
I learned a long time ago that what you focus on expands. That means if you’re constantly thinking about what you don’t have in your life, you’ll get more of what you don’t have. Did I throw you on that one? For instance, if you continually think about how much debt you have you will continue to go deeper into debt.
If, on the other hand, you turn your thoughts to what your life will look and feel like when you are debt-free and consider that scenario as often as you think about the other, you will begin to bring that brighter vision to life. If you focus on what you do have and are truly appreciative for those things, then you will begin to calm down and recognize the areas of your life in which you are wealthy.
Wealth, Health and Happiness
We all want an abundance of goodness and good things in our lives. We want to feel financially secure and to be able to easily meet our financial obligations. We want good health, and we want it for those we love. We want to be peaceful and happy inside instead of being in a constant state of fret and stress.
However, a majority of people are constantly in motion thinking that the faster they move and the more they do, the quicker they will get out of whatever distressing situation they are in. To that I have only one solution: Stop! Slow down. Take time to breathe – deliberately, consciously breathe. You are being controlled by your emotions, and by emotions I mean fear. The more fearful you are the more fearful you’ll become. That is not the road to wealth, health and happiness as you have probably already discovered.
A New Year’s Proposal
With a fresh New Year ahead of us, I propose that you give yourself the gift of time to sit still and to examine your thoughts. Pay attention to the thoughts that continuously swirl around in your head. Ask yourself if they are true. And breathe. Close your eyes and keep breathing slowly and deeply – in through the nose and out through the nose.
If you’ve ever seen anyone hyperventilating or have experienced this yourself and had to call an ambulance, the first thing the EMT has you do is breathe into a paper bag, slowly. They get you to breathe slowly because when you control the breath the heart slows down too.
Once you realize how random and rampant your thoughts are, then take control. You can control your thoughts. Think about what wealth, health and happiness looks likes and means to you. Think about your spiritual health as well as your physical health. Think about the health of your relationships – all of them – intimate, work, friends.
Breathe and Imagine the Best
This exercise, if engaged in frequently will help you calm down. I suggest making it part of your wake up time. Even if just taking a few moments before hitting the ground in the morning and before you go to sleep at night, you spend even a few moments doing this it will be worth it. I’m not suggesting this is all you do. You will still go about your daily life but more conscious of the thoughts you’re thinking.
If you would like to discover a truly stress-free life, contact my office. 2017 could be the year that you bring balance, wealth, health and happiness into your life permanently. Please, come and tell me what you do want!